What counts as DV?
I've been with my female partner for nearly 8 years were both gay, things seemed to go down hill in the last 4 years. She started to take depression pills, intimacy and everything else seemed to stop. I started to get a job, but she thought I changed, we had arguments and when she didn't want to hear the truth which can hurt it lead to her hitting me I don't hit back because my nerves won't let me. Situations like this happen about 5 times a year the worst was this year when my eye got injured I have been to the police but never got her charged. She has come onto a lower dose of depression pill and the girlfriend who I used to know is there in some form but there are some times I just think it might just be a part of her and that is all she knows as defense.
Why do I stay around? For the good person, she wants me to live with her but I have my reservations. Is there a law for gay domestic violence and is what I've had DV?
I suggest to consult a local
I suggest to consult a local attorney for this matter,violence in our society should be eliminated.
What counts as DV?
You ARE experiencing domestic violence and I would advise you to get some local support. Domestic Violence support agencies are not there to force you to leave but to support you. Unfortunately, the reality is, is that your situation with your current partner is only likely to get worse and happen more often.
You are being abused by the very person with whom you should feel safest. We all choose to behave the way we behave, so your partner has a choice. You chose not to retaliate, she chose to be violent.
Seek support for yourself.
What counts as DV?
On reading the comment by the South Yorkshire Police and the content of your topic. I fully endorse the view that nationally and certainly in Doncaster the approach to domestic violence issues is multi agency and centred upon definitions that are non-gender specific. Having said that certain agencies may have the ability to offer specialist advice to those who feel that they would benefit from agencies having such expertise around issues of gender or sexual orientation. What you describe is domestic violence and should be dealt with in the appropriate manner by any agency you may wish to disclose to. If you live in the Doncaster area you can get further advice from clicking on the 'Help and Support' pages On accessing 'Support Agencies' you will find a number of agencies who can offer you further advice on this subject in particular 'Doncaster Partnership Against Homophobia and Transphobia' and 'Doncaster Women's Centre'.
Doncaster Domestic Violence Working Party
What count's as DV
Although not all agencies share a common definition of DV, most are worded without reference to gender, to ensure that different relationships are not excluded;
“The emotional, physical, sexual and/or mental abuse of a person by their, partner, family member, or someone, with whom there is or has been a relationship”
So abuse/violence within a close personal relationship such as you have described would be recognised, certainly by the police.
There is no specific gay domestic violence laws, as existing criminal legislation is also not gender specific (with a few exceptions), and applies in hetrosexual as well as gay relationships. In other words, the criminal law is there to protect you too.
South Yorkshire Police
Public Protection Unit
Doncaster